You will be surprised at how many people you call your friends that are watching your every move. Even exs asking friends how you and your partner are doing on the low inquiring about your relationship status. The only people that matter in your relationship is you and your boo. That’s why if you guys are breaking up on Facebook every other week, then all lovey dovey in a statuses after, honestly no one wants to see that. Next thing you know a girl or guy is writing all over their page or liking all their pictures and you get mad. Why get mad when yall both have single on your page, so for this week he/she can do what they want…im just saying.

Even if you see someone calling your partner pet names, just ASK QUESTIONS! You don’t want to assume anything crazy and go off when it’s not that serious. But you do want to check it because we all know that people are quick to get you in trouble, even when you are on your best behavior.

If you want to vent, vent in a diary, to yourself or something lol. I mean you can’t get mad if you feel that behind closed doors you guys are in a relationship but on social networks you guys aren’t. Even by putting ‘in a relationship’ on Facebook doesn’t make your relationship real. It’s sad to say that a lot of people base their relationships on social networks. When back then when our parents were growing up if you were in love everyone just knew by word of mouth. I feel back then love, relationships and friendships meant more to people. Now people just want that image of perfection when we all know nothing is perfect. Social Networks give people a chance to hide behind a false facade.

Relationships aren’t easy but putting all your business on websites just make it harder for you to work through your problems. I say keep your business between you and your boo because you two know each other better than anyone else. Like they say, everyone has an opinion but you choose what’s best for you.

I’m not saying you can’t look by all means do lol..aslong as you look and don’t touch. Keep it to a minium atleast while you around that person that you are either with or potientially will be. In your free time if you watch porn because you like fantazing about other women/men you dont want to say “Did you see the size of his (fill in the blank), its huge,” if front of your partner.

Yes it’s important to be as honest with your partner as you can but there’s a line to be drawn. You definitely dont want them to feel uncomfortable to the point that they are changing everything about themselves. You always have to make sure you tell them how much you love them for who they are.

Also if you are on the other end and you feel that they are more interested in other things. Try spicing up your relationship. Bring goodies, dress up,learn different tricks whatever you feel is right for you. You can still be yourself but add a little flavor. So next time you do catch them eyeing the next guy or girl that walks by, they know they got something better by their side.

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Vision is a R&B soul artist from the BX..look out for his mixtape coming Valentine’s Day. Also his website is coming soon…We had fun on our shoot, we went to Yankee Stadium, then the westside of 125th street. Despite the rain being on and off, I was able to take some great shots.

My girl Khalia, launched her blog today! Make sure you visit it http://thecovetedk.com/. I took some photos for her so she could showcase her great style on her new fashion blog. We had a great time catching up and working together for this shoot.

Both of them are people you should look out for during 2012, they are talented and ready to take the world by storm .

The root of hate comes from different things. Being jealous, making assumptions or even anger. Now a lot of people are going to read this and say “I’m not a hater.”  You might not be one but we all judge. I repeat WE ALL JUDGE, even the people who always pump “Only God Can Judge Me.” Now let me give you some examples…

Example 1: If a girl has slept with a whole team of guys that know each other, the next man might not wife her because of her past but would have sex with her.

Example 2: If a guy is a drug dealer, buying fancy cars, name brand clothes and etc., a girl will see the money and be with him because of it.

For ex 1, this guy might end up wifing her on the low because he doesn’t want to be judged or made fun of. Ex 2, she will tell all her friends about her man but won’t bring him around family to hear what they have to say.

Hating and Judging are different from one another but do have similar roots.  In my own experiences, I know plenty of girls that messed with drug dealers. At the end of the day, they weren’t happy because he chose the game over them. I also know girls who will have sex with the same group of friends and don’t care what anyone thinks. A lot of us wouldn’t do either but that doesn’t mean we don’t do other things that would have someone else judge us.

Some people go to the extreme to have fun in life while others don’t. But how far would you go to be happy. We judge sometimes because we can’t understand why people do the things they do. People hate for the same reason too but also because it makes them feel better about themselves or the situation they are in.

Hating isn’t good for the soul but neither is judging..So for 2012 let’s try and change. No one wants to see all the hate or judging on Facebook, Twitter and etc. If you want to do that keep it to yourselves or with in your circle. Let’s be on our A game and be grown about it.

For example if you and your ex are EXS then questioning their whereabouts, who they sexing or who is that new person that ‘liked’ their status, isn’t something that should even worry you. If you guys are together and you want to know certain things then that’s ok. People tend to want both the relationship title but not be in a relationship, that doesn’t work. Jealous and assumption are the most common factors that ruin that chance. That’s why it’s important to know your place. From the start whether you want a relationship or not let the other person know!

If you just want sex then sex it is but if you want to form a relationship with this person tell them. A lot of people get hurt over and over again because they assumed this one night stand might turn into a relationship? Or if me and my ex go on a couple of dates we will get back together? If I tell him I want to take a break he will wait for me? You won’t know until you tell the other person how you feel. If they want to go then let them, if they want to stay, then work on things. It’s better to talk about your feelings then to keep them bottled up.

Letting the other person know how you feel is a sign that you aren’t afraid and that you are mature enough to know what to want to do. Moving on is hard, I’m not saying it’s easy but if you communicate how you feel instead of waiting you will feel much better about yourself. If it doesn’t work out how you want it, it’s ok to be alone for awhile. You can think over what you want and decide what’s best for you. I feel taking time out to really explore what you want will make you happier then being in something where you keep thinking about ‘what’s next’ ‘is their another woman’ ‘will she not leave her man for me’ and etc. Being indecisive about relationships in your life just brings more headaches and heartaches, there are more important things in life than that…

Make sure you guys check out my friend’s new video Ms. Ferima Faye. Also ‘Like’ her facebook music page. She is so talented and I’m so proud of her! She is fulfilling her dreams and is remaining herself. Also check out my past post featuring her with some photos I took of her

http://expressionofsound.wordpress.com/2011/05/19/a-walk-talk-w-ferimafaye/

So I decided to ask my guy friends what they thought a bad female was. To my surprised they said everything but their looks. That caught me off guard because if its not the looks guys look for where are women getting the idea of being bad is just the outer appearance.

I know some girls that do wear butt pads, that do love showing off their figure to attract a guy. I know guys who would see that same ‘butt-pad’ butt and talk to that same girl who is half naked and call her bad. This is where society’s stereotypes come in.

What we see on T.V is either you need to look like a video girl  having Kim Kardashian’s shape or be skinny like some of those Victoria Secret models. Your looks shouldn’t be the only thing that determines if you are ‘bad’ or not. So as I mentioned before here are the results I got from asking some of my guy friends below

-”In that aspect for me a bad sexy girl is a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality without being nasty”

-”Being the overall package having the personality to match her beauty& mind state of an adult who can have an    intelligent conversation”
-”Aura,walk body face. But if she is an airhead then it wipes out her sexy lol”

- My boyfriend’s answer was, she has to have confidence and it has to be shown from her actions. Example from how she walks, talks and carrys herself.

The answer that I was looking for was this, “always gonna be the typical answer…fat ass, “perfect” size breast, long hair, no stretch marks etc.”  Only 1 of my guy friends said this and I laughed because he said it as a joke. To my surprise my guy friends hardily mentioned anything about looks and went straight for the inner beauty. I feel if more guys would let that be know that not just the physical matter then more women wouldn’t want to go out and get plastic surgery to be that perfect beauty.

My definition of a bad woman is someone who is determined, independent, educated, a go getter, great personality, has goals and to add a little extra to their appeal looks is just something to bring to the table. After all that big butt, big breast and small waist  aren’t going to last forever..

I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings

“The free bird leaps
on the back of the win
and floats downstream
till the current ends
and dips his wings
in the orange sun rays
and dares to claim the sky.

But a bird that stalks
down his narrow cage
can seldom see through
his bars of rage
his wings are clipped and
his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing.

The caged bird sings
with fearful trill
of the things unknown
but longed for still
and is tune is heard
on the distant hillfor the caged bird
sings of freedom

The free bird thinks of another breeze
an the trade winds soft through the sighing trees
and the fat worms waiting on a dawn-bright lawn
and he names the sky his own.

But a caged bird stands on the grave of dreams
his shadow shouts on a nightmare scream
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing

The caged bird sings
with a fearful trill
of things unknown
but longed for still
and his tune is heard
on the distant hill
for the caged bird
sings of freedom.”