Are You Hating or Judging?

Are these lines hating or judging?: “Oh that bitch weave is jacked up” or “Fuck that nigga, I fucked his girl anyway” hold up. None of us are perfect but hating on the next male or female isn’t helping you out. If he loves the girl you were with in the past or the girl you see weave is messed up let them rock. I mean ladies we all have our bad hair days and guys she’s over you, so don’t be salty.

The root of hate comes from different things. Being jealous, making assumptions or even anger. Now a lot of people are going to read this and say “I’m not a hater.”  You might not be one but we all judge. I repeat WE ALL JUDGE, even the people who always pump “Only God Can Judge Me.” Now let me give you some examples…

Example 1: If a girl has slept with a whole team of guys that know each other, the next man might not wife her because of her past but would have sex with her.

Example 2: If a guy is a drug dealer, buying fancy cars, name brand clothes and etc., a girl will see the money and be with him because of it.

For ex 1, this guy might end up wifing her on the low because he doesn’t want to be judged or made fun of. Ex 2, she will tell all her friends about her man but won’t bring him around family to hear what they have to say.

Hating and Judging are different from one another but do have similar roots.  In my own experiences, I know plenty of girls that messed with drug dealers. At the end of the day, they weren’t happy because he chose the game over them. I also know girls who will have sex with the same group of friends and don’t care what anyone thinks. A lot of us wouldn’t do either but that doesn’t mean we don’t do other things that would have someone else judge us.

Some people go to the extreme to have fun in life while others don’t. But how far would you go to be happy. We judge sometimes because we can’t understand why people do the things they do. People hate for the same reason too but also because it makes them feel better about themselves or the situation they are in.

Hating isn’t good for the soul but neither is judging..So for 2012 let’s try and change. No one wants to see all the hate or judging on Facebook, Twitter and etc. If you want to do that keep it to yourselves or with in your circle. Let’s be on our A game and be grown about it.

“Should I Stay? Should I Go? I Don’t Know…”

Recently I’ve been talking a lot about relationships with my friends. No relationship is perfect whether it’s with a parent, friend or a girlfriend/boyfriend. With anything you do it’s all about patience, honesty, communication, dedication and etc. This post is going to touch upon boyfriend/girlfriend/friends with benefits/slide/ whatever kind of relationship you are willing to have with the opposite sex. Now the one line that can be said to all of them is “Know your role and place.” The reason why I say this is because when you know your role/place a lot of the issues that come up in relationships wouldn’t create problems.

For example if you and your ex are EXS then questioning their whereabouts, who they sexing or who is that new person that ‘liked’ their status, isn’t something that should even worry you. If you guys are together and you want to know certain things then that’s ok. People tend to want both the relationship title but not be in a relationship, that doesn’t work. Jealous and assumption are the most common factors that ruin that chance. That’s why it’s important to know your place. From the start whether you want a relationship or not let the other person know!

If you just want sex then sex it is but if you want to form a relationship with this person tell them. A lot of people get hurt over and over again because they assumed this one night stand might turn into a relationship? Or if me and my ex go on a couple of dates we will get back together? If I tell him I want to take a break he will wait for me? You won’t know until you tell the other person how you feel. If they want to go then let them, if they want to stay, then work on things. It’s better to talk about your feelings then to keep them bottled up.

Letting the other person know how you feel is a sign that you aren’t afraid and that you are mature enough to know what to want to do. Moving on is hard, I’m not saying it’s easy but if you communicate how you feel instead of waiting you will feel much better about yourself. If it doesn’t work out how you want it, it’s ok to be alone for awhile. You can think over what you want and decide what’s best for you. I feel taking time out to really explore what you want will make you happier then being in something where you keep thinking about ‘what’s next’ ‘is their another woman’ ‘will she not leave her man for me’ and etc. Being indecisive about relationships in your life just brings more headaches and heartaches, there are more important things in life than that…